21 Things I’ve Learned in 21 Years


I actually don’t know if anyone else celebrates their half birthdays but I’m that level of extra that I just have to, as if I’ve been 21 for six months now! So to celebrate that I’ve been successful in adulting thus far what better than to be a life guru and share my wisdom with you all.

  1. Quality over Quantity: This is something that I actually learned at my birthday party, I planned it for MONTHS, I hired the venue, ordered and hand made decorations, provided drinks, designed special cocktails and got cupcakes specially made as an extra little thing for my guests and invited about eighty people, the night finally arrived and only about twenty or less of my friends showed up, a lot of people cancelled last minute and I was so upset and embarrassed about the whole thing that I wished I hadn’t bothered putting in the effort at all, the guests who actually bothered reassured me they had an amazing night regardless and honestly thinking about it since I had a fab evening too, everyone who I really really wanted there came (minus a handful of people) and the rest of the guest-list were essentially just room fillers and it would have made no difference to me whether they actually turned up or not. Honestly only two people messaged me saying to have a good night and sorry they couldn’t come. As you grow up, it really is about quality over quantity and I learned who gave a shit about me by their actions, some of my friends travelled half way across the country just for the evening which meant more to me than they’ll ever know and it showed me who’s worth my time and energy.
  2. Stand up for what I believe in, even if it means standing alone: If I think something is wrong and I disagree with something, I will call people out on it, it’s that simple, even if it means I’m on my own with it, life is just way too short. I’m tired of giving into peer pressure over the fear of not being liked, I’m getting on now mate and I’m a granny, I don’t have time to be fake and lie to people about how I really feel.
  3. Learn to Love Myself: This takes time and it’s an ongoing process, it’s taking steps to make you happy in your own skin. I try and find something I like about myself every single day it could just be a small thing but it helps. “If you don’t love yourself how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”
  4. Never do something I don’t want to do because I feel have to: I come before anyone else first and foremost, it’s my life, my comfort and my happiness, so if I don’t want to do something such as go to a party or go out drinking then I seriously don’t have to, it’s also perfectly fine to stay in and have a bath and an early night and not spend money I don’t have when I need to.
  5. Everything happens for a reason: EVERYTHING happens for a reason and everything in life has led you to where you are now or where you’re going to go. Even if it feels horrible at the time it’s leading you to bigger and better things, honestly everything happens for a reason, like if you’re bidding for something on eBay and you get outbid at the last minute, it happens for a reason, that top was ugly af anyway…
  6. You are not everyone’s cup of tea: Admittedly, I can get on the wrong side of people just because I’m quite straight forward with how I think and feel about things, but that’s okay, some people really respect that quality in me and others just don’t like it, but if I’m not your cup of tea that’s good with me because you probably weren’t mine either guys 🙂
  7. Body is a Temple: This is something I’ve found myself learning recently, I’ve been treating my body like crap for a while, I haven’t been eating well, haven’t been going to the gym and I feel like a granny, then I only went and signed up to a bloody marathon. Your body has to get you through this life so treat it with love and respect and get your ass to the gym! Can’t believe I actually just @ myself in this, cheeky cow, start your marathon training immediately.
  8. Take Risks: Honestly just take risks, life is too short not to, just say fuck it and take the risk, if you can’t answer the question ‘why not?’ then it’s worth doing. Don’t be boring, being a crazy bitch is so much better.
  9. Saving money: I’m at the point where I should start saving money for life after university, I’m gonna try not to spend it on pointless shit which I don’t need such as my hinching products, but oh my god especially food, if I could count up the amount of money I spend on food I would probably keel over and die in an instant, it’s a disgusting amount I can imagine.
  10. Don’t be afraid to ask for help: Asking for help is something I was terrified of up until a couple of months ago, I don’t like to put my problems on other people, never have and never will. I like to think I can do everything on my own but I need to admit sometimes that things get on top of me and I can’t hack it, hence the breakdowns as you’ve seen me write about many a time, if you are struggling please ask for help from a trusted friend or family member, no matter what it is, people love you and you’ll get through it.
  11. Don’t sell yourself short: I am totally guilty of selling myself short a lot of the time, I’m awesome and I have many fabulous qualities which I don’t rate myself for which I probably should a lot more, I can be really funny, I’m a fiercely loyal friend, I’m intelligent, I can sing well. There’s so many things which I need to hype up instead of dumbing it down and selling myself short.
  12. Karma is a beautiful thing: Karma is something which comes back around always, maybe not straight away but it will and it does, so just trust in vibes and bad people will always get what’s coming to them, that’s the way the cookie crumbles guys.
  13. Own my Mistakes: I make a lot of mistakes and some of the things I do are questionable, I need to take full responsibility for my mistakes and just learn from them, doesn’t everyone?
  14. Educate yourself girl: There’s a lot of things I don’t know, I honestly don’t know what’s going on in the world a lot of the time, I know nothing about politics, I really don’t and it’s actually kind of crazy. I need to definitely keep myself updated and educated on these topics as they are so important. I don’t even know anything regarding Brexit, what the hell is going on with it? But I don’t think anyone knows what’s going on there so I don’t feel as guilty let’s be honest.
  15. Family is Everything: My family mean the world to me, they’re my rocks and I honestly just get so lost in my own life I forget to call them just to tell them that I’m okay and I am alive and they don’t need to worry. A friend once said to me uni is a bit of a bubble which you’ll get lost in and I truly do get so lost sometimes. I’ve organised my life a bit so I know I have to do things on certain days, for example I call my grandma on a Monday evening as that’s one of the few evenings she has free in the week, start as you mean to go on and get settled in that routine.
  16. Put your phone down: I recently downloaded an app called ‘moment’ which tracks your screen time, in one week I’d managed to spend 21 hours on my phone. What the hell? That’s nearly a full fricken day!!!! Social media fully takes over my life and it’s time I could spend doing so many other things, working out, doing chores, catching up on coursework even writing some blog posts. When I saw how many hours I spend on my phone I have no excuse to be saying I don’t have any free time! PUT YOUR DAMN PHONE DOWN.
  17. Find someone who makes you laugh till you cry: When looking for a partner, you need someone who gets you fully, I mean honestly who gives a shit about looks, if they have them, that’s a bonus, but all I want is someone who has a top personality and I have that in my boyfriend Marcus, he’s a legend. We’re basically the same person but I’m the better version obviously.
  18. It’s okay to like things which other people don’t get: I am a Hincher, I LOVE MRS HINCH. She is my favourite thing ever in the whole entire world at the moment, my favourite thing to do in my spare time is hinch my bathroom and bleach the surfaces and PINE the toilet. I LIVE FOR IT, I screamed when I finally got a minky. People don’t get it and that’s cool, it would be boring if we were all the same.
  19. There’s no place like home: There’s nothing better than home and there’s nothing like the feeling of home, it’s the place with faces you know and love and it’s the ultimate comfort to me. My uni home is my home away from home and I absolutely love making it nice and homely for me and my flatmates, my heart will always belong to birmz though.
  20. Stay organised and stay on top of the game: Organisation is such a key thing, I’m quite organised anyway but occasionally I’ll lose track of other things because I focused so much on a particular thing or factor of my life. I want to become EVEN more organised and stay on top of the game, ensuring everything is completed on time and I become one of those magical females who are just unstoppable humans.
  21. Grades really really don’t matter: Grades don’t matter, I mean they do. But at the end of the day as long as I’m doing or did the best I can then I can’t ask for anymore from myself and no-one can ask for anymore from me. I need to realise that of course grades seem like the bain of my life right now but this time in two years I really won’t give a shit. But hey ho!


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